Plan dates According to Joann, an account executive, who's been married for 11 years and is a mother of two: "Every two weeks or so, set a date in which both of you have to get spiffed up and go on a romantic date. Whether you head out to a restaurant, a show or even a hotel bar, making dates with each other will give you both a reason to look good for one another and will ensure that you spend quality time together." Communicate Steve, father of three and married for 7 years said; "Discuss sex with your wife. Talk about what you like, what you desire, how you want to change your sex life, or what you love about it. Talk to her. Everyone has different sex drives; make sure that yours and hers are similar." Be spontaneous Newlywed Sharon advises; "Although you don't necessarily have to have spontaneous sex with her all the time, kissing her passionately for no reason other than because she turns you on will definitely make her feel sexy. Touch her, hold her, kiss her, and above all, make love with her." Use props Marco, married for 15 years and with four children, remarks; "Movies can put a few ideas in her head and add some enticement to your sex lives. Imagine hearing another woman moaning in the background as you penetrate your wife. There's no harm in trying. As well, head to a sex shop together and invest in some toys, outfits and lubrication. You won't know what you like most until you try everything." Leave the bedroom Kiki, married for five years, said; "Vanilla sex is great, but vanilla sex outdoors is even greater. And if you're not the type to put your sex life out there, head to a bed and breakfast or even a seedy motel. A change of scenery will definitely provide an element of mystique." Try different sex And finally, Kevin, whose nine-year marriage almost came to an end, said; "Start experimenting with positions, orifices and tempos. Test out a bunch of sex moves and try something new every time you make love until you discover what works best for you." sex will change Of course, there's no doubt that your sex life will change once you get married, but it doesn't have to become non-existent or worse yet, a chore. Marriage itself isn't easy, and as with every other element of it, if you want your sex life to remain a priority, you have to make it one
